Inspired Life Solutions is run by Joanne Freer and for 20 years, or
so, I have been privileged to work with hundreds of people as they find
ways to create optimum health and turn their dreams into a reality.
What do you dream of?
If you’re anything like me, you’ll have wishes and aspirations
about what you’d like to do and who you’d like to become.
They are dreams, because we haven’t achieved them yet, we’re
not yet in that space, that job, that relationship, that place of Peace,
or Passion, or Power within ourselves.
For many, many people, these ideals will remain just dreams, because they
will never do anything about them, never have the courage and the vision
to follow through. But for some, they will take up the tools that others
have successfully used before them, even develop new ones of their own
and they will chisel a new future, or even a new self out of the fabric
they are made from.
Generally speaking, there’s quite a gap between where we are and
where we want to be. In Coaching, this is called the ‘Critical Gap’.
When we understand what is in the space between where we currently are
and where we want to get to, we understand what is inhibiting us from
creating the existence we want for ourselves.
This website is a comprehensive tool to accompany you on every step of
your journey, from helping you to assess where you currently are in your
present; through the potential minefield of Beliefs, Values and Needs,
which generally drive our behaviours, often limiting our success in many
areas of our lives.
It will assist you to clearly see the future you wish to create; it will help you map out how to get there; it will support you while you take action to achieve your goals and it will help you reach your destination. Also, because we understand that often when we reach the destination we often slide back, as it were; it will help you understand and come to terms with the cycle of change, reinvigorating your new, chosen behaviour, instead of the old habit which is trying to reassert itself.
Ultimately, this cycle grows smaller and smaller, until your
new action is the habit and the old one is just a memory. Success!
To Begin:
Before we embark on any new journey, we need a map of some kind. It is
pointless to try to follow instructions to anywhere before we know where
we currently are. So, we begin by downloading and printing off the self-assessment
wheel from the toolbar. Mark on each line where you feel you currently
are in every section, on a scale of 1-10. There are 12 sections for coaching:
Personal Development; Creativity; Vocation; Spirituality; Environment;
Social; Financial; Emotional; Health; At Home; Partnership and Parenting.
Don’t judge, or over think your answers to this exercise, trust
your instincts and know that everyone perceives things in a different
way, so your sense of where you are is right, just as it is.
Once you are clear on which areas feel stronger, or less strong than the
others, you choose two or three of these areas to address, working your
way through the list in the left hand toolbar, starting with the section
on ‘Beliefs’.
You will find a video tutorial in each section to guide you through the
exercises. Each section will explain what to do and where to go next.
We all have ‘beliefs’ about ourselves and other people, about
all the aspects of our lives and why they are what they are. We have beliefs
about Fate and Destiny, about making our own way in the world, about money
and hardship and what it means to be loved.
These beliefs form a substantial part of the ‘map’ we use
to navigate our lives, but where do they come from and why are they there?
As they have such a strong influence on our thoughts, choices and behaviours,
it is in our interests to understand them, otherwise we are at the mercy
of hundreds of outdated concepts, that bar future change, creating our
own personal “Groundhog Day’ of recurrent past.
Our beliefs, it seems, begin as a vague notion, a thought about something,
perhaps very early on. We construct a concept about this thought, a collection
of ideas, assumptions and emotional associations, which over time solidify,
as ‘knowledge’. We then look for confirmation for this belief
every time it crops up in our existance and ultimately, we are convinced
it is ‘true’.
It is the meaning we attribute to events through these beliefs that create
our ‘reality’, but you will recognise I’m sure, that
reality is unique to each individual and works both for and against us.
If our beliefs are negative, they become a self-fulfilling prophecy, which
we are inclined to protect regardless of the pain that causes us, because
our commitment to the identity we give ourselves is that strong.
You also need to be aware, that some of your negative beliefs keep you
invested in not achieving the goal you set yourself. Example:
§ Goal: “I now increase my income exponentially…”
§ Belief: “Money is the root of all evil”
§ Goal: “I now create a committed, loving relationship with
the partner of my dreams”
§ Belief: “Intimacy is dangerous, it’s a complete trap…”!
You can see, no matter how hard you work on your new income, or your relationship,
those beliefs are going to make sure you don’t get any more money,
or more love in your world, so get to work and weed that garden.
The good news is, through recognising and understanding your beliefs,
you can re-programme your thoughts and attachments to them, ultimately
replacing them with beliefs that support your growth and progress in the
direction you long to go.